True life story – Helping you think about your life

By Robert Frische – Bracknell News

AS a reporter, I’m trained to approach interviews with a healthy amount of scepticism, and it was no different when I was offered a life-coaching session.

Life-coaching started in America as help for athletes, who realised they could achieve more if they clearly defined their goals and removed any mental obstacles.

Sharon Juden MA (Hons) is an accredited life coach and holistic therapist and she offers life-coaching sessions from
the Natural Health Consultancy in Crowthorne.

Her reassuring and calming manner (combined with some extremely comfortable armchairs) set me at ease immediately and before I knew it I was spilling out my hopes and fears.

“We start by defining your values,” Sharon told me in her lilting Irish accent. “A lot of people end up feeling frustrated and unsatisfied with their lives.

“This is often because they don’t know what their values are, and they end up living with the values of other people, typically their parents.”
Sharon explained that when it comes to working out what my values are, it’s important not to think too much (which comes as a huge relief) and just go with my gut instinct.

So, even though I know it’s probably irresponsible to put having fun as my number one value, it goes right up there at the top of the list, just nudging out freedom and having good relationships with friends and family.

But it also turned out to be an analytical business this life-coaching, and I was soon attempting to answer a Cartesian Quadrant.
The easiest way to explain this is that it’s a set of questions which engage different sides of the brain. The right side of the brain is the creative side, while the left is more logical.

So in order to employ the logical side, and mine rarely gets any exercise, the questions were phrased in a way that made me think twice.

Example: – “What do you NOT have in your life at the moment that you are happy with?” Hmmm…I put debt and ill health for this one, once I had worked out what the question was asking.

The next phase was The Wheel of Life. This involves giving aspects of your life, such as your relationships and lifestyle, a mark out of 10.
If they are not a 10, then you work out what it is that you can do to reach the magic number. It sounds simple, but what this really does is help you to actually think about your life and focus on what you can do to make it better, rather than just taking the easy option of drifting along.

Rather than spoil any more of Sharon’s techniques, I wholeheartedly recommend paying her a visit at the consultancy in 188 Dukes Ride, Crowthorne.

By Sharon Juden, Life Coach and Hypnotherapist in Berkshire

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