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Turning Bad Habits into Good Ones

Saturday, September 5th, 2009

Turning Bad Habits into Good Ones
Do you find yourself doing things and then wishing you hadn’t or wondering why you did them because you don’t feel good afterwards? I’m thinking here of over-eating, over-drinking, over-spending or anything in fact that you do to excess?
“How did they start in the first place and why are they so hard to get rid of?” is a question I hear almost daily in my hypnotherapy practices in Berkshire in Reading and Wokingham.
The answer is usually found in the past. Let’s take drinking too much as an example. This is a problem many people are facing more and more at the moment and if you ask them they will often say they do it because it helps them feel more relaxed and is a form of escapism from the stresses and worries of their lives.
At some point in the past they will probably have taken a drink after a particularly stressful day and found that they enjoyed the effect, so immediately a link was set up in their brain associating the relaxed feeling with the drink. Next time they feel a bit of pressure, they have another drink and very quickly a habit has formed.
These habits then become lodged in the subconscious and are usually left unchecked until the habit starts to create problems – perhaps the drinking is becoming excessive, health is suffering or relationships are being threatened. This is the point at which people tend to seek help in hypnotherapy.
The good news is that habits are simply learned behaviour. You weren’t born with this behaviour pattern, so you with help you can un-learn it and replace it with a healthier and better habit. The first step is to recognise where you are struggling in your life. Self-awareness is the key to success. Notice when you want to have the drink, what’s going on, where are you, who are you with? Be honest because pretending things are better than they really are will not help you break the pattern.
Next, using your imagination and self-knowledge think of other, healthier ways in which you could feel de-stressed and relaxed and which you know you would want to do. Then visualise yourself behaving in this new way and pay attention to how you feel. Have a clear image in your head of how you look, how you’re acting and play this ‘video’ every day in your imagination. This will help instruct your subconscious to act differently next time you’re stressed and as this ‘habit’ becomes stronger, the old, unhealthy one will start to fade.

To help it fade faster and to make the new habit even stronger a session of hypnotherapy will set you up for success.

Sharon Juden is a Hypnotherapist in Berkshire as well as a Career and Life Coach.

Stressed? Try Hypnotherapy in Crowthorne, Berkshire

Saturday, July 11th, 2009

Stressed? Try Hypnotherapy in Crowthorne, Berkshire

Stress manifests itself in a variety of ways, many of which are not immediately recognisable as stress.  In my hypnotherapy practice in Crowthorne I’ve seen a rising number of people coming with all sorts of issues ranging from sleeplessness, teeth grinding, over drinking to a general feeling of being inadequate and unable to cope with the pressure they’re under.

The problem with the lives we lead nowadays is that we’re constantly expected to produce more and faster, respond quicker if not immediately and be accessible practically 24 hours a day.  This leaves little room for relaxation, hobbies, fun or simply ‘being’.  Our technology has moved forward but we haven’t.  Our bodies are still the same as they were hundreds of years ago.  The fight/flight response we used to experience when faced with danger still occurs only this time there isn’t a sabre-toothed tiger to run away from.  In fact, many times there’s nothing to run away from because we can’t escape the daily situation, so the adrenaline is pumping through our system and has no release.  It’s little wonder more and more of us are finding our bodies are suffering and complaining.

The first step towards resolving the problem is recognising what your stress symptoms are.  They won’t be the same for everyone because some people are better able to cope with large amounts of stress than others are.  The symptoms will generally fall into three categories:
1. Emotional
Eg Irritability, increased worrying, being overly critical

2. Physical
Eg Increased heart rate, sweaty palms, skin rashes, weight gain/loss

3. Behavioural
Eg Increased alcohol intake, sleep problems, over-eating

Once you recognise your stress symptoms, notice when they happen.  What is going on in your life to bring them about?  Is there a particular person who knows exactly how to wind you up?  Are you regularly getting into debt and feeling stressed about that?  Are you being asked to do too much and feel you can’t say ‘no’?  Stress generally comes about because we feel we have no choice.  We feel pulled along in a direction we’re powerless to stop.

The truth however is that we do have a choice.  Even if we can’t change who we live with or where we work for the moment, we can always change what we think about the situation.  We can choose to perceive it differently.

As mentioned earlier, some people are better able to handle pressure than others.  Are they special or gifted?  Not usually.  It all comes down to how they interpret the situation, how they perceive it.  For them there are no problems – only issues to deal with.  So if you regularly feel stressed, notice what you’re telling yourself when you’re in that situation – eg  ‘I can’t cope, I’ve got too much to do,  I never have enough money’ etc and notice how that simply makes you feel worse.

Our subconscious mind is very literal.  It doesn’t know the difference between fact and fiction and it believes what it is regularly told.  So if you’re constantly feeding yourself negative thoughts, your subconscious will go about creating them – just like programming a computer.  You tell yourself you’re not enjoying work and can’t do anything properly because there’s not enough time and you will continue to create that reality for yourself.

It sounds bleak, but the good news is that if we can create negativity and pressure for ourselves by the way we think, we can also uncreate that.  We can create a more positive, forward-looking attitude that offers solutions for a calmer future by changing our thoughts.

Using hypnotherapy where you’re relaxed and more susceptible to new suggestions, I build up an image of how you will be, what you will be feeling and thinking in this new calm state of mind using your own words.  You absorb these new ideas and images and come away from the session feeling much more relaxed and positive.  Over the next few days you will notice subtle, gentle changes in your thinking and approach as your subconscious begins to create this new reality for you.  The more you choose the positive suggestions over the negative ones, the more they become embedded and so develop into your new behaviour and thought patterns.

A new, healthy habit has now been created to replace the old, destructive one and from this mindset you’re better able to deal with challenges as they come along in a calmer, more focused way.

If you’re regularly feeling stressed try hypnotherapy to help you relax and put a new perspective on things.

Sharon Juden is a Hypnotherapist in Berkshire as well as a Career and Life Coach.